The “generation gap” was a phrase used in the late 1960’s and 1970’s to negatively denote the differences between the youth and the elderly.  The mindset of the majority of young adults in that era, was that the elderly knew nothing of the “modern” world.  As a result, the elderly were mocked, laughed at, and eventually forgotten.  Historically, the elderly were included as an extended part of most families.  It was not unusual for elderly adults to be living with their children’s families.Today though, we see more of our older Americans institutionalized, spending their “golden years” under the care of complete strangers.  As a caretaker of the elderly, I have seen this “generation gap” close through experiencing first hand some of the riches the elderly have to offer.             

 There was a time when I too, felt that the elderly were out of touch with “real life”. Each time I go to work however, I find there is some special person waiting to teach me very valuable lessons of life.  Although their bodies have grown more feeble over the years, some of these residents still have very sharp minds. I am reminded of the resident who sits in her wheelchair in almost constant pain yet radiates joy when we have conversations about the current events in our nation.  This same resident has shown me what real contentment is.  She is totally dependent on others for her everyday care but is a person of joy and dignity.  She has instilled in me the desire to treat all of the elderly with dignity.               

 Some residents have bodies that function quite well but their memory has been altered, usually through a disease process.  The honor has been mine to care for a resident who was formerly a member of the state legislature.  Although he cannot remember my name, he does remember the mechanics of his years of shaping public policy.   He can often be heard “giving a speech” in the quietest hours of the night when other residents are asleep.  In caring for this gentleman, I cannot help but think of the years of service he gave to his state and country, and  am pleased to have my turn to serve him.  Long term care residents hail from many varied backgrounds .  I have  cared for a resident who was extremely difficult and demanding, only to have her family tell me that she was the best mother one could ever have.  What  a great lesson I learned  in how not to characterize a resident based on only what I see!         

In my own mind, the generation gap is closing as I learn to relate to my patients on an individual basis.  Each resident has great worth in their own life history.  In knowing this, I have been able to glean from them some of the pearls of wisdom they have to offer.  I find joy in serving and giving back to the elderly what they so willingly gave to the young in years past.